Firstly, I strongly suggest that parents never be strict to their children. Many researches show that strict, or authoritarian child-raising style actually produces kids with lower self-esteem who behave worse than the other and therefore get punished more. No one like being controlled. The more you try to control, the more your children try to break the rules. Besides, being too strict to your children may damage your relationship with them as they become more unapproachable and even harder to manage. Parents can only show their children the right path to go in their life and then let them walk on their own feet. In addition, a wise man once said that: “Children close their ears to advice but open their eyes to examples”. In other words, they will learn more from what parents do than what they say. Therefore, if parents want their children behave in the good way, they had better set a good example. For instance, say “thank you” to the children when they do something for you and then your children will remember to do the same thing in the same situation. It is also important to apologize for doing something wrong. In that way parents can teach their children honesty, responsibility and justice. Allowing room for mistakes is also worth a try in parenting style. Nobody’s perfect, neither the parents nor their children. Blame, anger, and conflict never help parents solve the problem. Keep calm and point out your children’s mistakes in the most reasonable way. Then give them a second chance to correct their mistakes.

The way I see it, parents probably should be tactful to their children. For example, when they get bad marks, instead of yelling that: “Another bad grade? What is going on with you?”, just say: “It seems that you have some trouble in learning this subject. Is there anything I can do to help?”. In addition, when parents refuse to do something, they should give some reasons to explain for it not just only say “No”, which appear to be “irrational” in children’s thinking.

Last but not least, it is crucial for parents to do all the best thing for their children with their inexhaustible love. No matter what you do, children must sense that parents do it because they love and care about them. The thing is material in some case can show your love, however parent’s attitude as well as their actions could tell them more. Spending time with children doing what they want to do, being a good listener to your children and even a well-prepared dinner full of their favorite food could mean a lot to them.